Rules for teens?

What are your rules for your teens?


My 15 year olds sons rules are:


Must get homework done before anything else,


curfew is 10:00 P.M.,


must go to church every Sunday unless somthing very important comes up,


cannot have a friend over unless i'm informed,


bedtime 11:00 P.M.,


cannot go anywhere unless i'm informed,


and must watch little sister when i'm not home.


What are your rules for your teen?


And if your kid isn't a teen, what are your rules for your kid now?

Rules for teens?
I have a 21yr and a 19yr away at college, but they had similar rules.


Currently at home I have an almost 18yr daughter who is a senior, a 15yr daughter who is a sophomore and a almost 13yr who is in the 7th grade.





My rule is that once you start middle school, it's your responsibility to get your homework done, study for test, get projects in on time etc. By that age, you should know when you should be at home working vs out with your friends.


My 17yr's curfew is midnight. They can't drive pass that time in NJ anyway until they're 18. After her birthday on 12/17, she will be in the house no later than 12:30am.


My 15yr has to be in the house by 11pm. I usually have to go get her, so we never have a problem with that. My 12yr is home by 10, but I have to get her as well. When they go out I need to know where they're going, who they're going with, a call when they get there and a call if they're going somewhere else. This is all for Fri %26amp; Sat night or if they don't have school the next day.


Weekdays, in the house by 9:30 (only for work) and ALL lights are out by 11pm. Usually my older two girls are sleeping by 10:30 and my youngest is by 10.


Best Wishes
Reply:I think that by fifteen you should let him know that he needs to get his hwk done, but do not force him to do it at a certain time.Let him come up with his own schedule, and see if that works out.If it has a negative impact on his hwk, then continue making him do it before anything else.


This is a hard rule to argue about, because i would also want my children to maintain education as a top priority.





If he drives then i would say curfew from 10-11, depending on the situation. I know that sometimes a movie or a party starts 8-9, and they need just a little more time.i think that if this is the case it should be ok as long as they contact the parent and ask.


If he doesn't drive then it 10 is reasonable since you have to pick him up.





If he truly enjoys going to church, then continue encouraging him to go, but do not make it a "must". sometimes children resent religion because their parents were strict about it.


that's just me.





yes, definitely require that he inform you about having ppl over.i think it's a matter of safety for both your son and his friends.if the friend's parent were trying to find him/her, it would be crucial for you to know they were at your house.





i do not think that i would give my children a bedtime after the first grade.i never had one growing up. i think that by 15 a kid learns when he/she should go to bed. Although at first it will seem "cool" to stay up as late as he wants, a couple of tired mornings-after will teach him to go to bed at a reasonable time.





i too would require my children to inform me before they go anywhere.safety.





idk if i would make my child babysit.i would try to reach a compromise with him, so that it would not seem so much as a requirement as it would be a deal.





these are my opinions.





best of luck with your child.


let him be happy and have fun.





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Reply:A bed time seems odd. I mean he is old enough to know when he is tired and needs to go to bed. curfew sounds right, I would not make the boy baby sit though unless its not often.
Reply:I am 16 and my parents make me go to bed at 9. I can do my homework whenever I want
Reply:I think 11 is too late for home time


I think10 is too late for bed


I would never make my child go to church


I would never put the responsibility of him looking after another human at the age of 15





All the other rules are pretty reasonable and when my children are teenagers I would probably follow them
Reply:woah.. thats bad. i didnt have a curfew even when i was 7-now. and we'er catholic and we donbt go to chruch evey sunday if i didnt want to go i didnt go. and i couls leave when i wanted to. thats a little to mean. let yur kid have freedom
Reply:I'm not a parent, so feel free to ignore my advice, but my rules I think would stem from this one single principle:








I will treat how however you act. Act like an adult and I'll treat you like an adult; act like a child and I'll treat you like a child.








Both of these can have negative consequences for the kid. For example, if a 16 year old wants to stay out with the car and disregard my subsequent rules for when to come home, then he/she can pay for his/her own car and insurance, even move out or pay rent. If a 9 year old wants to fuss about at the table and complain about the meal I fix, he/she can sit in a high chair and be fed smashed carrots with a bib and spoon.





Essentially, the kid is granted the rights and assigned the responsibilities that he/she has earned and deserved through behavior and demonstration.
Reply:i think once in a while let him have fun


u dont want him secretly hating u


make sure he can tell u everything and u wont get too mad but help him through it
Reply:I do not have kids but if I did.





Homework is definitely important but I would first teach him ways of studying so he knows how and doesn't get too stressed out. Wouldn't force him too do it above all else especially if he had a stressful day at school.





A specific set limit for tv on school night an hour at most.


I say 10 is about right for a curfew especically on a school night.





Bedtime should be at around 10-11





I can understand about having friends over without permission especially if you're not home. Also, letting you know of plans and if they change to make sure they call you. Communication is the key to any sucessful relationship with your kid.





I would not force my kid to watch his sibling when I'm gone. Since there's no age you state for the sister, I can understand having to watch her for a couple days of the week, but forcing isn't really a good idea unless he volunteers to do it.





Now the church thing I wouldn't force my child to go with me if he chooses not too then fine he's old enough to form his own opinion about religion and if he chooses not to go you can't force him otherwise he'll just resent you.
Reply:TEENAGERS DNT NEED RULES they need to learn the hard way or by you sitting them down and talking to them