Another teen question for Teens?

My son is 14 years old and actually a very good kid. Smart and talented. Just this past year or so he's been starting to get lazy with things. Such as his handwriting, reading, (he's reading smaller books cause he doesn't want to read bigger books cause he's being lazy) also instead of studying for a test he'll not study and risk getting a bad grade because he didn't want to study once again out of lazyness. He's getting to the point that he's lower his standards and what he's capable of doing because he's being flat out lazy instead of try harder and not being lazy. My question to any teens since you're in the same frame of mind as he is, what can I say or do to refrain him from being lazy and lower his standards like this, and also possibly continuing this path of lazyness that could go on into high school and possibly further???

Another teen question for Teens?
you have no idea.


i am smart and great at the violin, i dont practice but yet i get first chair in orchestra and get perfect scores on auditions, but i dont practice because im lazy. i could be sooooo much better. but im just luckily talented and can do it without practice, i take it for granted, and i dont think i will practice intill i get a wakeup call.


i think your son is in the same situation. he may need a wakeup call.he has succeeded and takes it for granted and thinks things will just come to him, maybe it will work. the only question is are you willing to risk it?


man i need to practice.
Reply:i was like that when i was younger but as i got into high school i grew out of it.
Reply:He might not be "lazy". He might not want to do it because he's starting to not understand. Try to give him things to do he might excel at instead of reading and books or such.


Try getting him in a sport, exersize, buy him a sketch book and some pencils or markers, take him to a museum or park.


If all else fails: give him a talk to.


sit down with him, ask him why he isnt studying, tell him you want to see him work harder at his studies.


Dont embaress him, stress him, OR put him on a guilt trip. just calmly talk to him.





Hope I've helped.


P.S. dont call hm "lazy". Its just plain rude.
Reply:maybe he gets teased I'm like one of the smartest kids in all my classes and they tease me but I just ignore them


they also tell me if they could copy and it gets annoying and now I'm starting to lower my standards as well
Reply:hahaha thats exactly like me! im 14 too, except im a girl but i am just as lazy as him, maybe even worse seeing as ive missed 27 days of school already. i just didnt feel like getting up lol.





my teachers are all like "jessica, you have the most potential out of everyone in your class, so why dont you try more?"





but school is gay.


i hate it.


i go there to talk to my friends and flirt with guys. thats it.


its just so much more fun not doing work.


and i hate having to think and stuff, its boring.





so there is nothing you can say or do to make him do better, at least thats the way it is for me. i just dont care.





BUT


i know once i get into high school im actually going to try becuase i know that that is when your grades really matter. thats probably what hes thinking too.


universitys dont care what your grades were in grade 7 and 8 - besides, its almost impossible to fail grade 8. because, as my guy friend put it oh so well, "they dont want to see your ugly face again next year" lmao.





hope that helps!
Reply:well i would say there is not much you CAN do...you can't change his attitude...he is just being a teenager and he'll get over it...when he's about 25





dont push anything onto him...the more you try to get him to do something, the more it makes him want to go the exact opposite....


be his momma, but dont be overprotective and unreasonable


it will drive him to do things even worse
Reply:this was kind of like me. i did really good in school and then i started getting lazy about it. He's just flat out tired of doing school work everynight and going in 5 days a week to sit down and write stuff. i understand! tell him that you believe in him %26amp; that he can do well, and you just want whats best for him.





when he does good, let him know your proud. Or try rewarding him when he does good, and punishing (or taking away privleges) when he does bad.





also, set a homework time everynight when your both available. sit down with him and help him get through his homework. make him realize its not as bad as he really thinks it is.





hope i helped!(:
Reply:i would tell him if he didn't study or read that you will take away privileges and ground him for a month!!!