Are the parents of pregnant teens responsible for the pregnancy?

i have seen many teen pregnancies while in highschool, mind you i have been out of highschool for 2 years, but while in highschool i saw these pregnant teens





i wasnt even thinking about sex...why because my parents raised me to know that sex is after marriage -- i did wait until my wedding night!





but do you believe that the parents are to be held responsible?


if you are a parent of a teen pregnancy, do you feel responsible for not leading him/her in the right path?





i saw one case in particular where the mother allowed the teen go out and have fun while the grandma took care of the infant...in my opinion the 'mother' chose to have sex and she should take care of the consequence that came out of it...

Are the parents of pregnant teens responsible for the pregnancy?
I think the parents should NEVER be left raising their grandchild.


It pisses me off. My partner and I never ever go out together, since the kids were born. He will go out with his mates every now and then, and I have been twice.


My friend although I love her dearly sometimes I just want to shake some sense into her, had her first child at 16, she is now 23 and is pregnant with her 5th.


It shits me to tears, because she never has all the kids at once. Her and her partner don't live together and have a rocky relationship, but they try and save their relationship by having more kids.


Her mother will often ring me up and be in tears. It isn't my place to say anything though.





If you want the bloody kid, look after it!!








PS. I am sorry, if this is really bitchy I am in a bad mood -Lack of sleep! :))
Reply:kinda sorta :\
Reply:I both agree and disagree with eye candy. I agree that it is not always the parent's fault, sometimes kids do stupid things no matter how they were taught. I disagree that it could have just as easliy happened to you, or me for that matter. It couldn't have happened to you because you weren't having sex, and it wouldn't (and didn't) happen to me because I was taught how to prevent it, and never allowed sex to happen without prevention. I realize that there are "pill babies" out there, but a vast majority were caused by carelessness. I knew how pregnancy happened, and I did what was necessary to make sure I didn't get any surprises. When I was through having kids (had one that was planned), I took steps to permanently prevent it. Most of the time it's just a matter of being careful.
Reply:I dont believe the parents are responsible. I've seen children raised as strict catholics and then all the sudden when they hit the highschool time period they totally rebel out and do their own things and the things they are infulenced to. It's the child making their own choices in life, not the parents. Parents cant do anything except talk to their kids about safe sex and hope for the best anymore.
Reply:Parent can do their best, but it's up to the teen to take responsibility about their on acts. Granted, a parent taking over a teenager's kid is not teaching responsibility. It happened to me. I got pregnant at 20, and my parents made me take care of my own baby, to get a job, and to be responsible about her. That taught me that if I wanted to have fun, I'd be responsible for the aftermath.
Reply:i don't think it;'s the parents fault...it's really got nothing to do with them because they cn tell the kids don't do it, don't do it over and over but if the kids dont listen, then well....you get a teen pregnancy
Reply:i disagree kids have a mind of there own and free will and no matter what you raise your kids to believe is right and wrong they still can choose to go against this and if it happens and the kids are prepared to keep it and the kids mum wants to look after it then thats up to surely thats just making the best of a bad situation
Reply:Yes in 80% of cases the parents are to blame. Because a majority of teen pregnacies are born out of a teen pregnacy themselves!!!!!!!!! Its a viscious circle, the teenager is not going to know any better. And again in most of these cases its frequenly underpriviliged, or broken families, where there is little discipline from the parents, who are getting benefits for their brood of 5-6 kids.





Before anyone has a go i know that this is not in all cases!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:No parents are not responsible!
Reply:No way. I know from personal experience that even if my Mum is against something or doesn't want me to do it, it wont stop me. We have to take responsibility for our actions at some point.





But in saying that, I know a girl whose parents couldn't care less about her. They do drugs and drinking every night. This girl is out sleeping with who ever is willing. If she'd had a good upbringing with morals, then she probably wouldn't be out sleeping around.





My Mum doesn't mention sex. It's something that doesn't even get mentioned in this house. I have my own morals, nothing to do with either of my parents. I have no idea what my parents morals are.





Of course a parent is going to feel responsible for it. It's only human nature.





I don't agree with the grandmother raising the child. That's just wrong, it's your baby you take responsibility.
Reply:In most cases, I don't feel like the parent is directly responsible. Not all people believe that sex is for marriage only. Telling your kid not to have sex until after they're married isn't the only factor to do with the rate of teenage pregnancy. PROPER SEX EDUCATION is more the problem. My parents didn't have "the talk" with me until I was 15. Now a days, kids are learning about it sooner, but aren't being educated. So they just start experimenting on their own. Even with all the education in the world, there's still gonna be people who make bad choices. Adolescents is the universal time span of "bad decisions". Some people grow out of it and learn their lessons, others don't. lol So no matter if parents start teaching the kids EVERYTHING from the age of 5, when they hit that time in their life, they're gonna rebel and take chances. *generally speaking of course* Its just part of life.
Reply:When you have seen a 14 year old, that claims she had consensual sex with a man that is 27, you come to realize that it is up to the parent of the child to enforce rule and discipline over their child. As the adult parent is the guardian of the child parent, it is, by law (depending on the state and their minor sex laws) the adult's responsibility. For example: if said adult parent takes their child into the local Welfare office to apply for Medicaid for the child parent, the child parent cannot sign that application and make it valid, unless there is legal emancipation already approved by the court system, or the child lives all by herself (in which case, what adult parent will help their child parent that claims to be a sufficient 'adult'?).





I am the mother of a 4 year old, I am almost 24. I was 19 when I got pregnant. By law I was considered an adult, however I was far from it. My mom helped me a lot during the first year. I was still a child. In many cases ( I see it at my work) the grandparent has to take legal custody of the grandchild so that harm/mistreatment/neglect doesn't come to him/her.





My personal feelings are that if the adult parent doesn't want to be responsible for the teen parent he/she should emancipate the child parent. Otherwise, I fully believe that it is the fault of the adult parent for not preparing their child for the world, and educating them on smart decisions. If the child parent chose to ignore the parent, emancipate them, and force them to grow up. If they fail at being a parent, and the child is put in any danger, bring the police and Child Services into the equation.





I hope I helped!
Reply:yes and no, my mum raised me well with sex etc and i had my son at 18 i was also raised to work hard and now me and my husband have careers have a house a new car etc and are awaiting a new arrival in may 08 sex is a natural act and when your young with hormones sometimes you make rectless decisons, but sometimes its also that the parents didnt teach them about sex and the morals of sex well enough some simply allow it others make it so taboo that children do it as there way of rebelling i think you have to sit and teach your children the morals of sex and if your religous teach them about the religous side of sex im not religous but i believe that some religons have great morals when it comes to that and if you pass on your belifs and morals it becomes something more then just a thing to do or a fad it becomes something they respect
Reply:How dare you! I was a teen parent and I think that is unfair that you are even asking this! I don't think its fair that you are judging us. So what you waited until you were married! That was my plan and even when it was just the people around me having sex and I was still a virgin I still didn't judge them. You don't know what these people have gone through so don't be so quick to judge! **** HAPPENS! I still managed to finish school 3 months before graduation and continue my education. I plan on going back to become an RN. And no its not my mothers fault, we make our own decisions. And we have to own up to them. So get a life, worry about you and your husband because just like it happened to me it could have easily happened to you!
Reply:no they are not the reason. i was younger and i did some stupid things. im not pregnant or a mother but i did do some stupid things! and my mom raised me right but i just did what i wanted to anyways! i snuck around behind her back and now i regret it so bad! she was right the whole time! so no i dont think that the parents play any part in it.
Reply:The Grandparents have to be held responsible because how is a teen that cant even work or drive or even stay home alone take care of her baby teens. I think its sad for the kids born to the young teen mothers and sad for the grandparents because 1.grandparents shouldnt have to do this all over again, they did not lay down and get pregnant but on the same token i think if the parents raised these teens like you were raised then maybe pregnacy wouldnt of happened!


what is to say about our future? if millions of teens or unwed young moms have kids you know the younger you start the more "babys daddys there wil be and i think ethics morals and values have been placed aside and its sad so sad.


My friends mom had her when she was 14 and she now has 6 kids by 4 different dads and i know some more like this.


Imno one to judge but its up to these parents/ role modelsto love and nurture there kids spend time with them and lead by a proactive lifestyle and this can be prevented!

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