Teens, Sexual Tension and Parents, Why is it Taboo?

Besides the 'Birds and the Bees' discussion, I've noticed that a lot of teens have a tendency not to discuss sex with their parents in any form. Why not? It's clearly all over the media and internet, so society has no longer made it a serious 'TABOO' issue to talk about. And I'm not referring to the anatomy that so many teens learn about in school and health classes, I mean the stuff that the state cannot educate children on; like an orgasm, an arousal, what exactly sexual tension is, masturbation, the assorted forms it comes in, and some of the symptoms of STDs that educators may not go into fuller detail with. People say that education is the best weapon agains violence, death and disease, but why not sex?

Teens, Sexual Tension and Parents, Why is it Taboo?
I completely agree with you that it's strange, and I really appreciate the fact that you asked that question in a LITERATE way. =)





I am also fifteen, and it troubles me that my parents and adults in general seem to find it too awkward or "taboo" to discuss anything related to sexuality with me or any other young people. Even in school, while our teachers were teaching us so-called "sex education" they touched on the topic as minimally as possible; nothing even slightly controversial was mentioned. But why does the controversy exist at all? I firmly believe that, as you said, education is the best weapon against many of the negative things in our lives, and many of the repercussions of careless sex would definitely fit into this category. It seems to me that if teens (and even younger children!) were better educated about sex and spoken to in a much more open manner about it, there wouldn't be nearly as many teen pregnancies or STDs, as well as emotional, psychological, and academic repercussions of careless sexual decisions. This would not be because teens are going to listen to their parents when they tell them to simply "not have sex," (a concept that many of those anti-drug and anti-smoking ads would suggest.) This would be because the topic would no longer be such a mystery. I think it is this mysteriousness that makes sex so intriguing to teenagers- it is not a concept we are taught to be comfortable with, and therefore we are curious. Many teenagers do not know where to draw the line between their own curiosities and common sense; I suppose that is part of growing up. (We've all done dumb things.)





The vast majority of other teenagers that I have spoken to (in relatively non-awkward discussions, I might add) agree with me that they would like it if adults were more open with them on the subject. Why should sex be treated as such a mystery? If any parents are reading this right now, please take this into consideration.





...So... yeah. =P
Reply:The problem is that parents mostly feel like their children are either not smart enough or not old enough to handle these kind of conversations. I talk freely and openly with evryone about anything. Most people find that strange but when they need to talk who do you think they feel comfortable talking to.....? The funny thing is your parents should be the first people to want to teach you about Masterbation and orgasms. Hell, I've been married for 9 years and now know that their are 4 major sensual zones for women. I'm still looking for 2 of them but I know they are there. Education is the best weapon, just search for the right teacher. If your parents aren't willing to have these conversations with you maybe you have a friend or even a friends parent. I would say to just stear clear of churches, co-op groups, and older men... Just choose carefully and be honest, that's the best way to get the truth. I wish you all the best, and remember it is your body. You know how you feel and sometimes it is something you kind on your own, because whatever you hear it is, after all, someone else's opinion of something you feel or are going through....





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Reply:Me personally I read ALOT of books before I decided to have sex. I started to read the books because I thought I was ready, to educate myself on what was really happening and what the outcomes could be, my mother saw me reading the book and asked me if I was having sex, I said no, she said make sure you use a condom if you do, and she left it at that, at the time I was 12 now i'm 23. I decided not to have sex after reading those books they were graphic and scared me.











People are scared to talk to there parents because the don't want to be thought of as a BAD kid because its on there mind, some are just not comfortable enough with there parents to talk about sex.
Reply:balla is rite.


its nt something u talk with ur parents.


im also 15 n i HVE NEVER heard them talk to me like that.


soz.


plus u learn it from others, not ur parents.


thy seem to never wanna tell u.


thy think ur too young.
Reply:its so awkward talking with your parents. i still have never had a talk like that and im 15 i just learned its something you just learn about from others.
Reply:I think its taboo only in the sense of the fact that people think its something wrong to think about it and if you even talk about it you're a bad and sick person. I feel more liberated being able to talk about sex. I would definitely want to have learned all that stuff in schoo instead of hearing it from friends or experiencing it myself. Then again I might've just went for it hearing all that. I think its also uncomfortable for an adult to talk to young teens about it as well because they are not comfortable with themselves. Its all about comfortability and being immature to hear all that.
Reply:Because parents get all tense and seirous... then they embarass you... then they ask why you want to know