Why do teens have sex at young ages?

i mean i am a teen and many of my friends are doing this every other day. why? i mean i think it is nasty so young. but why do people go on about it. i know they think they are all HOT SHOTS but still why do they have to go this far. even at high school parties this goes on. parties are supposed to fun and hanging out not drugs and sex. yes another thing is drugs. we do teens think they are cool from drugs. is it because they dont have no one to guide them, show them from right or wrong. I just dont get the point of drungs and Sex.... for TEENS!

Why do teens have sex at young ages?
they just want to be accepted by their peers and they think that is the way to do it
Reply:Their hormones are saying yes. And sex is fun. It's a natural part of life....and high school is just the right time for a lot of people to start doing it. If it's not the right time for you, that's okay too.





As far as the drugs go....a lot of kids in high school and college experiment with drugs....it's fun for a little while, and then they quit. I don't advocate there use....but for most kids I think it's a passing phase.





A few of them with develop problems. But that can be said for a percentage of any population.
Reply:Because they think they're know it alls, why else.
Reply:omg, honey i EXACLTY know what u mean!!!!!! :) i was just about to ask that, thanks. omg i hate kids like that, hate hate hate with a passion.





i mean, when you are in your teens to me teens is 13-19, right? and you are just kids! your body has not developed yet. it's sad when i go on sites like ym.com and see young girls asking "how do i give a b.j. or a blow or hand job to my bf? im like "hunnie ur jsut ******* 13!!!!!!!!!" that is for ******* adults. man, they still go to school, its like kids having kids! wtf, theyre so messed up. here are a few examples of such horricity ive read. (below)





.. like omg wtf this is stuff for ADULTS not little children! it's like a baby trying to cut meat! it is wrong and unjust. i ******* wanna smack some people when i see this s.h.it ........these kids need a serious smacking and a serious lesson before it's too late. they don't even know what they are doing. they're like " im 14 and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. he says if i dont he will leave me. what should i do??!!!!???????????" it ******* makes me sad..i mean this could be my kids in the future. :( and i dont want that. god these children are so messed up, they SERIOUSLY need PROFESSIONAL help ALL OF THEM..they are ****** in the head, i swear. and please dont quote these sites, i dont want the people bitching at me. it's ATROCIOUS. :(





final words. WTF?????????????? here are examples of atrocity ive heard: i didnt copy %26amp; paste cuZ i didnt want to invade their privacy. ok here we go. : btw this came right from the website and the things these girls said, and NONE of these people/accounts are me/mine.





how to give a hand job


how do you do it?





like over the pants??





and then under the pants? ( that was one. ) here is another:





hey guys,





i just got the pill and i just got my rag like 10 mins ago, so i was wondering when i can start takin the pill. i am on tri-cyclen-lo 28 and i wanted to wait for a sunday to start takin it because my friend told me that i won't hve my rag on a weekend then. but i was wonderin if i can do that or when i should start takin it. also what time do you think is best to take this pill, take in mind that i am hiding it from my dad but my mom knows about it.





thanks for you help its appreciated


I have a boyfriend who I like alot...we've been together a year and we are really close.


Before that we were friends for three years.





I went to my cabin on the weekend, and Saturday night my parents went camping on the Island we were on...but I didn't want to go (they are into the wilderness).





I let my neighbour and his two friends (all male) come to my cabin. We were all talking when my neighbour started kissing me...and both of his friends said we should all have fun. We all did E, and I took off my clothes and we all had sex...without protection. They took turns going back and forth on me, about like 5 times each for hours and hours. The only problem is they all have girlfriends and I'm not on any kind of contraceptive...and they cummed in me like 14 or 15 times.





When I got home Sunday my boyfriend came over and wanted to have sex with me, so I did...


but...





What do I do?








those are all the examples straight from teen sites. (no lie.) if you don't believe me go to the source below.





sad, isn't it? :(
Reply:Simple it's nature! Humans are sexual beings period and teens are human.
Reply:I don't know. It's a mixture of acceptance, peer pressure, and excuses. They use the excuse of "everyone does it" to make it "okay" and then do it because they want to be cool.





Honestly, sex and drugs are a big part of teenage life--they were even back in the 50s--it just wasn't talked about. It's a phase and that's what some people do to have fun.





Good for you for not caving in under peer pressure.





EDIT--As for blaming parents it isn't just that. Sure, some parents are to blame but many teenagers do what they want. I've known many people who have excellent parents who are involved and even stay-at-home parents. The teenagers are just very good liars. Haven't we all seen the parent who was "perfect" then their daughter or son gets drunk and arrested one night? It happens to most people. Teenage years are a shocker to ALL parents--even the involved parents.
Reply:It's hard to answer this question, some of teens they want to have sex, because they seen or watched a lot of pornography website and movies. Some of teens they went to take drugs, because they want to get high. For this reason, is hard to judge why they do so.


Personally think we should blame on parents.
Reply:My kid's friends that I know are having sex are all looking for love in all the wrong places. They aren't getting emotional needs met at home so they are looking for a substitute. I know that this is why I did it in high school. I didn't realize it at the time but I sure did after I grew up. If you feel unaccepted, unvalidated at home and no one is there for you, that makes them seek other means of satisfying their needs. Some turn to sex, some to gangs etc.. It is sad to see this happening. I see so many kids hurting and I want to make it better for them, but their parents need to step up and be parents, be there for them with unconditional love. Sex will still go on, but it may reduce the casual sex, the I'm cool sex. I am proud of you for your views and choices. Keep up the good work!
Reply:most likely it's just giving into peer pressure...a lot of teenagers just want to feel accepted and loved and they feel this is the only way they know how to get it..but congrats to you for sounding very mature and not willing to give into the pressure...just be you and stay secure with who you are!!!
Reply:THEY ARE DOING IT BECAUSE THEY THINK ITS FUN, AND MAKES THEM LOOK GOOD I GUESS. WHEN I WAS GROWING UP, WE HARDLY HEARD OF THINGS LIKE THAT, IF THEY WERE DOING IT IT WAS QUITE. IT WASN'T BRAGGED ABOUT. BUT BE PROUD OF YOURSELF NOT DOING WHAT OTHERS DO. AND I WOULDN'T REALLY WORRY ABOUT THE OTHERS. LET THEM DO WHAT THEY WANT AS LONG AS THEY DON'T BRING YOU INTO IT. GOOD LUCK.
Reply:they just want to be accepted by their peers and they think that is the way to do it
Reply:everyone has there own personal opinion
Reply:they are ignorant ppl who don't know whats best for them
Reply:Their hormones are raging and they are naturally curious....but everyone isn't doing it either...lots of them are making up stories to fit in or look cool...stick to your guns when you know what is right for YOU...
Reply:I don't get the point of drugs and sex either sweetie but your not doing it and that's great. Stay in school and keep your head-up.


Sex will still be there when you get old enough to experience it, just wait until the time is right.


As for drugs it's a no,no never.....o.k


you're a good teen.
Reply:Because they feel the need to.
Reply:Yes you have it correct--its a way they think that they are cool--and whatever--lets all just kill off brain cells--and get stupid--and the sex?? a way to be all grown up--NOT----Just don't fall into this as it sounds you are so much smarter than that--Thank you
Reply:Because they think sex is cool,and their friends are doing it,so they think it's ok.They don't realize the conscience like std's pregancy,AIDS.
Reply:Teens are having sex at such young ages because they think its not the "norm" to still be a virgin when they graduate from high school. So some start off at such young ages, and will get younger. Thats why you see 10-12 year olds drinking.





You don't have to lose your virginity to be cool, but in my high school, finding a virgin was hard, it was like playing "where's waldo", and i'm still a virgin, and will be on my wedding night. (i'm 20)
Reply:Well i aint going to lie i started having sex when i was 16 but atleast i had enough sense to get on birth control and i married the guy i lost my virginity too. We have been together for almost 12 years. We only have one 5 year old son. No one pressured me into having sex. It was my own decision. My boyfriend (now husband) and i waited for a year into dating until we had sex. As for drugs i was around it but never done anything.


People would ask me to drink or smoke pot but did i? No i didn't. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do.


You cannot blame it all on peer pressure because someone cannot make you snort a pill or cocaine or take a hit off of pot. (I had friends that would talk this way)


No one can make you have sex unless you are raped.


I do think that teenagers should not be having sex (If i could go back i could have waited longer) because most don't even have enough sense to use birth control and condoms.


I am 27 years old and have never drank, been drunk or been put in jail for anything. I have never been to a bar. See people can't make you do things like that if you don't want too.


Good luck
Reply:I know what you mean. I am also a teen and many people at my school do this. They are all just growing up the wrong way too fast. I guess that when a teen has sex, and they just wanted to be popular and accepted by others. And if that is the case then I must be the nerdiest person ever. And I am okay with that. I have friends, a boyfriend of 2 years , and a family that loves me.
Reply:sex is clearly a part of life. some people are more curious than others and so start younger. as for drugs kids just want to fit in and have fun and think thatis how to do it
Reply:because they're stupid! that's it! they do what people tell them, and they act like idiots sometimes. reckless, careless teens...
Reply:I'm 19, i had sex at the age of 17 after talking with my then boyfriend, now fiancee for 2 weeks. I didnt do it for fun, or because of my peers. i did it because i love my fiancee, i loved him then and i still love him now.but i never slept with anyone else, only him. I never did drugs. i payed way to much attention in health class and dont feel i need drugs to have a good time. I had someone to show me right from wrong, my parents, and my faith. but like others said, its a part of life. but don't do it unless your comfortable and love the person and know he loves you. and your ready to deal with the concequences that could happen if something goes wrong, or something breaks, etc...
Reply:no it is not cool teens think everyone eles is doing it so will i i did and i had a baby at 16 not cool i am glad i have him he is now 17 we are best friends we can talk about anything and we talk about sex all the time and i tell him dont do it just because everyone is doing it i have 2 other boys 12 ,13 and i tell the that to be a kid or teen live ur life have fun there will be time for that later in live and i just hope for the best
Reply:because they think having sex is a game, and they have dis in mind dat its going on everywhere in the world, so they should do it. and they feel good when they do it.
Reply:I think it's because parents aren't doing a good enough job of instilling morals in their children. Parents these days are too busy and self-centered to develop proper relationships with their kids. Then, their kids, who are lonely and missing the affection of their parents, seek love and attention elsewhere. These kids are seeing a lot of sex in the media, so it is easy for them to think, "Hmm, I want to feel loved, important, that I matter... maybe sex will do it... look at (insert name of over-sexed movie star here) he/she is popular and he/she has sex. If I have sex, I'll be like that."





Ok, so that's probably not the *conscious* thought process of teenagers, but you get the idea.





Drugs? Same thing. It all stems from self-centred parents who care about their own lives more than that of their kids. Absent parents who spend more time at work than with their kids (kids get the message: work is more important than you, child.)





As a parent of three young boys, I have made them my priority!!