I would like to begin by saying this is more of an educational question then anything else, this is free to be open to anyone for answering regarless of age. I really want to hear from parents though. What do you think about letiting teens watch porn weather its through internet, tv, or magazines (do you have any different reactions to the different methods), why would you/ or do you let or not let your teen (again aged 15-17 ) watch porn or not watch porn.
Some arguments can very in many different methods, on one hand if you dont let them there are many methods for teens to rebel they can purchase it in stores on there own, they can find it online at a friends house or even surpase your security clearense or they can do the old fashioned way of just seeing it from other students at schools because you know teens will bring magazines to schools.
If you do let them watch it though the teen might be very sexually active or you might be uncomfortable doing this.
So what do you do? and WH
Parenting on porno watching for teens aged 15-17, what do you do and whats your reasoning?
I think allowing teens to watch porn is wrong. It gives kids a false sense of what sex is really like. Not many people have porn star like sex lives. I think it warps reality for them and will make it harder for them to have a natural mature sexual relationship.
Edit: Trust me I know what there is out there for porn, I watch it all the time. I'm not a prude. I still think it gives a false sense of how sex really is. If I were to have watched porn before I had sex for the first time, I would have been a really disappointed girl. How can you control exactly what kind of porn they are watching. There is a lot of fetish porn that kids should NOT be watching. I still stand by my original response.
Reply:[not from a parent's point of view]
I would not ALLOW porn in the household (i think that is implied with respect to the home...etc...same thing as not having sex under your roof)
HOWEVER, if you noticed, realized, found porn...I would leave it alone...it's all about growing up and it's normal (for guys and girls) - they are discovering their sexuality...along with maturbation...etc...
I would talk to your child about sex, protection and the importance and significance of sex....but not about the porn that you found under their bed - that is just TOO embarrassing for the child (you might as well have just walked in on them) ...
Have open communication w. your children - STDs, HIV, AIDS...etc and pregnancy - talk to them - protection and the help out there (if they don't want to go to you they have Planned Parenthood...etc)
If you go about it like the person said above me...you will create a huge distance, embarrasment and you will def. lose communication (on this topic) with your child - and that is the LAST thing you want
but that's just my opinion
good luck
Reply:I have 2 daughters as of now and for me personally, I would be a little "wigged out" in the beginning. I would talk with them and see their opinion on watching porn. I would explain to them that porn is not real life situations but I really couldn't stop them from being curious. If it is for personally gratification when I would be okay with it compared to "sex addict tendencies"(age 17 more so than 15). My mom was very open and honest with me so I never had to worry about coming to her and being scared of what she had to say even if I knew she was disappointed...I would like that with my children. Now my husband would freak....he wouldn't want to to think about his little girls being interested in sex. Great Question!
Reply:No parent will willing let teens watch porn, it's the simple concept of parenting. I have three teenage sons, 19,18, and 16. I don't willingly allow them to watch porn, but I know they do. It's a natural thing, especially with boys. We are a military family and we move alot. 4 years ago when we were moving overseas, I had to make the move by myself while the boys visited family. The playboys, hustlers and every other men's magazine, including Juggs where under my boys' mattresses, bottom of thier closets, etc. I finally just told the movers, "if you find it, keep it". They swap them at school, on the bus. They are going to see it, watch it, what have you. Again, how your kids turn out is all about parenting. I know my oldest left home still a virgin, and he had the most hidden loot. He made a decision, and no magazine or video, however many times looked at, made him want to have casual sex, and that validates that the way I raised them worked. I started having sex talks with them at a young age, and unfortunately, most of what I said could happen, did happen to kids at school, std's, pregnancy.... so I can't always control watch they watch, but I definately played a role in what they did, or didn't do.
Reply:I would not do it. Aside from the fact that they are underage making it illegal, I think it is wrong morally. I think that during this time of their lives they are formulating ideas about sex and to show these exaggerated images that are often demeaning to women is potentially harmful. Porn is mainly used as a stimulant and why would you want to stimulate your child? Porn does not depict what real life sex is usually like and I would want my own kids to associate sex with love and commitment to another person instead of associating sex with random intimate acts with strangers. The fact that they may sneak it from a friend or from somewhere doesn't matter one iota. It is normal for them to be curious and the sneaking of it is a part of that. But it would be confusing and uncomfortable for them to have their parent thrust it at them and say, here watch this because I know you want to. How creepy that is and what an ugly and unhealthy way to set them down the road to adulthood. Parents are supposed to be the voice of reason and the role model of goodness to give their children a solid wholesome base of support and strength to grow from.
Reply:I think it is a bit of a stretch to say that most porn out there is of regular couples making home movies. I guess maybe it depends on where you look but that is contrary to what I have seen.
I agree with TLS that it may give them a warped sense of what sex is really like. I wouldn't "allow" it to try to minimize it but wouldn't go out of my way to spy on my kids and see if they were viewing it.
Reply:Porn is EXTREMELY dangerous, addictive, and unhealthy.
It damages, or destroys a persons ability to bond with others.
The result is unhealthy relationships.
It makes people objects and dehumanizes them.
It makes people extremely vulnerable to being abused by others.
The subject in the pornographic depiction is someone's:
- child
- sister
- brother
- mother
- father
- grandmother
- grandfather
- aunt
- uncle
How would you feel if someone you loved was depicted in this way?
It destroys respect in the victim and those who are viewing the victim.
When pornography is viewed it creates an appetite, and a demand for more, which creates more victims.
Lack of respect for others is the root of many evils including child abuse, rape, genocide, slavery, murder, and many others.
I hope your conscience will not allow you to be an advocate of such atrocities.
Please do not make a huge problem worse by participating in it.
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