I just replied to a question about a person who's 15y/o daughter asked her for the pill %26amp; if she should get it for her. I was very surprised about some responses where people said no. I was wondering why they would say that? In my opinion, if a teen is asking for the means to protect themselves, why should we refuse? There are so many teens having babies out there, and people complain about them. But when they are asking for the pill or condoms they throw up a fuss %26amp; say no! Yes, they are too young to be sexually active, but if they are going to be responsible about it, why not give them the protection? We cannot control everything our teens do, so why would we deny them the pill %26amp; condoms? Teens will have sex sometime regardless of how much supervision they have. I remember in high school, kids snuck off into the woods and did the deed at noon!! With that kinda stuff going on, how can you say no?
Teens %26amp; Birth Control?
From a biological standpoint, the onset of menses indicates that a woman is prepared to have children. This country has put many stigmas and labels on age, many of which are rather strange. In other countries, 8th grade girls would be married off and begin reproducing, so the comment about teens being to young to have sex is a bit misguided. They are deemed too young for our society, but as everyone knows, the hormones dictate when they are ready and they will decide for themselves. At least this 15 year old is smart enough and responsible enough to realize that there are options for her and that she needs to protect herself if she does not want children. This is more than can be said for some of the "adults" of the world, and coming from a country that deems marriage (age 18) as less of a responsiblity than drinking a beer (age 21), its not surprising that so many people say no. NEWS FLASH: YOUR KIDS WILL HAVE SEX! Get over it and equip them with the knowledge to do it safely rather than hoping for abstinence as the only method of birth control around.
Reply:I all but begged my daughter to get on birth control as she entered college. She did not date in high school and only went to 2 proms. I knew that she kissed her prom date but you never know and I wanted her to get through college without any hickups that could have been avoided.
Partents, it is time to wake up and be able to discuss things with your kids, especially if they come to you.
We have responsibility to our kids and discussing birth control and accepting our children are just a few of the responsibilities.
Reply:I agree with you. I would rather my teen daughter be on the pill or know how to use condoms than get pregnant at 15. While I'll preach abstinence to my daughter when shes a teenager(shes only 2 now) I know teens tend to do what they want...my sister certainly did. I never had sex as a teenager and hope my children will respect their bodies too.
Reply:I totally agree, even if parents say no many teens will just do it anyway. I'm 15 and I'm on birth control. its not because I'm having sex but I know i wouldn't have sex without it. When i do have sex I'll be smart enough to get a condom. anyone who refuses to give some one the supplies they need to protect themselves are in denial with reality and truly lack common sense.
Reply:Hopefully they use tools
Reply:I would give my teen pills if she ask because i would rather be safe then sorry and plus i was on pills when i was 15yrs and i didn't have kids until i was 20yrs old
Reply:I have a little boy and a little girl. For my son, I hope he takes my warnings seriously. For my little girl, sexually active or not, I will take her and make her get on birth control. I know too many youngsters who are pregnant right now and they keep getting younger and younger. If they come out with a safe male birth control you can bet my little man will be on it. Being a young parent isn't fun.
Reply:I agree. I think that if a teen is asking for something like that, it all becomes too real for the parent or person in charge to handle, and some people feel that giving in to things like that is like encouraging them to have sex.
Reply:As a mom of 3 girls it is hard to say what I would do. I wouldn't want to give the ok to have sex but you are right regardless of whether or not the parents give in to birth control they are going to have sex anyway. I think I would rather put them on birth control than them end up with a baby at 15.
Reply:Yeah, I agree with you. I think if the parent states their opinion about it, and asks why they want it, its not necessarily giving them a green light to have sex. Some girls want it to control period cramps,I did when i was 15, and arent even sexually active and dont plan to be.Some want condoms just in case things ever get hot and heavy. Those are the ones who are smart enough to want to be prepared, and denying them the means to protect themselves because we think their not going to do it anyway is ignorance, teenagers are humans too,with crazy hormones on top of that, and humans are sexual beings, plain and simple.
Reply:I agree with you. They're going to do it anyway, and while it might kill me inside to have my 15-year-old daughter experiementing with sex at what I think is a young age, I would get her pills, and tell her to use condoms to prevent STDs. Being open with your kid about these things will make them make healthy and more-informed decisions. Talking with them about the risks might even scare them into not doing it, haha. But I wouldn't scare my kid, either. I would just make sure they were fully aware of the possible consequences and make sure they know that sex is supposed to be pleasurable, but only with the right person.
To make it more fair, I might ask my kid to do more chores to help pay for the pills or something like that. But that's just the basic "nothing in life is free" lesson.
Denying your child of a mean to protect themselves is pushing them away and preventing them from confiding in you in the future.
Reply:they say no because they think that will stop the problem completely..... they dont want to give the child the birth control because it makes them think that sex at 15 is ok..... dont get me wrong im with you... when I was 14 my mom gave me a box of condoms and said "im not telling to use these, and I hope that you dont, but please use them if you need to!"
I always did! - no babies
Reply:Here's my opinion on this. If you just give teenagers birth control when they ask for it, they will see it as the parents giving their teenagers permission to be sexually active. If parents just sit down and talk to their kids about being safe instead of giving them birth control left and right then there would be less teenage pregnancies. The pill only protects against pregnancy, it doesn't protect against HIV or other STDs. How is that trying to be safe?
Teenagers may be doing it anyways, but a good long talk about the risks of HIV or STD's and how to prevent them is something parents need to talk to their teenagers about.
Reply:I totally agree with you.
Teens will have sex and it's always better to avoid an unwanted pregnancy and/or an STD.
Reply:I agree with you completely! if they are going to do it anyway they might as well be protected.
Reply:I agree with you. For a lot of parents it's either because they refuse to give up full control of their kids' life, or they use their religous beliefs as an excuse to deny their kids of b.c. I was able to go out and get on my own b.c when I was 15. (Thank you Women's Health!) and as a mother of 3, when my children are older and any of them come to me about needing b.c, I will be more than happy to help them. It's also a good feeling that your kids feel close enough to be able to talk to you about these kind of issues.
Reply:i believe you're right if they are asking for birth control pills and condoms hey im all for that!! We need to teach them safe sex because teaching them NOT to have sex will only make them want to go out and do it even more.
Reply:I agree with you. Teens are going to have sex if they're so inclined - refusing to get the pill for a teen is not going to keep her from doing it.
However, if I had a daughter, and if she asked me for that, I would hesitate. I'd like my daughter (hypothetical daughter) to live, not just not be pregnant. I know it's hard to talk with them about that kind of thing, they'd rather not talk about such things with thier mom. Sorry kid, we talk about this. The pill will keep her from getting pregnant, but offers no protection against anything else.
I do have a son. Once he's old enough, he'll learn about condoms and have them available. He will know where to go to get them if he needs them, and to not be embarassed to buy them.
Reply:I love how she just took an answer that i wrote on a question not to long ago and formed it into a QUESTION! Well done.
Reply:Do you have a 14 -15 year old girl ? How would you feel if you came home %26amp; saw your 14 yr old having sex with a 18 yr old boy ? Her excuse is : I am on the pill, what is the harm ? The pill makes them responsible ! Let 12 yr olds drive !!! just give them a helmet !!!!!!
Reply:IMHO, I feel they should put birth control into the water/food/beverages at all the schools so that no one has to worry about it any more.
Reply:And if they want to drink let them, if they want to do drugs dont say no, hell yoou cant be expected to watch them every minute and we all know they are going to do it anyway.
What an insane attitude, you think a parent should give a 15 year old so she can protect herself from a pregnancy. Why not teach that child not to have sex at 15, even if you think that they are all doing it anyway. What a cop out as a parent. If My daughter had asked me for the oill for any reason than medical, I would have said no. I would have explained to her that she has no business giving her body away to some young man that will move on to the next young lady when he gets bored, because we all know young love dosnt last. I would further explain that her body is the one thing that she has full control of and as a teenager that should be something to cherish and be proud of. I would end our conversation by stating that if she in fact decided to go against my advice and have sex when and if she got pregnant she would be on her own, I would not be there to take care of her child when she wanted to go to spring break with her girl friends, or babysit so she can go to movie. Her life would be dramatically altered, so think carefully about your actions, there will be consequnces. Its called tough love, parenting whatever. Bottom line you never condone behavior of a teenager that can ruin their lives because it is easier to do so, or because, and I love this one, they are all doing it.
Reply:I agree with you 100%. I have a little sister that is 15 right now. I have told her repeatedly that if she decides to have sex then to talk to me first. I would rather her wait until she is an adult, but you can't control those things. I would get her protection, but I would also explain to her that none of them are 100% effective as well. A teenager needs to understand there are things out their that are just as bad as having an unplanned pregnancy, such as STDs. I bet if you show them a picture of someone who has a gnarly std, it will change there mind real quick.
Reply:I don't know why people think that allowing teens access to birth control is "encouraging" them to be sexually active.
OF COURSE parents should talk to their teens about abstinence and let them know that it's the best way to go. But, if a teen is going to have sex, what are you going to do? Keep them locked up forever? Parents can't be there every single second. Personally, I have a younfer sister who is 14, and if she came to me in a year or two, and asked about birth control pills and condoms, I would take her to get them. I don't think it's encouraging anything. I would actually be happy that she is taking responsiblity for her own life, and taking action to prevent pregnancy and STD's.
I think people are ignorant if they think that telling kids not to have sex will prevent pregnancy. Like parents don't do that now? Yet still we have teens posting questions on here every single day worried about pregnancy, and some of them don't even really know what causes pregnancy! Sexual education is SO important! I bet you the majority of their parents told them that they shouldn't have sex. Yet here we are, with teen pregnancy everywhere.
Let teens get the protection they need!
Reply:just by taking birth control, your not protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases. There is not an age you can purchase condoms at. You can buy condoms anytime you want to. With that to say why do you need your parents to get them for you?
Reply:The pill protects against nothing but pregnancy. Unfortunately, that is the LEAST of our concerns as responsible parents.
In the United States, half of all new HIV infections occur in people under age 25; one-fourth in people under the age of 21.1 Each year U.S. youth under age 20 experience nearly four million sexually transmitted infections (STIs)—including herpes, human papillomavirus (HPV), chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV.2 Although declining rates of vaginal intercourse and increased condom use among sexually experienced youth sound hopeful notes, the increasing HIV epidemic among youth of color—especially young women—and among young men who have sex with men (YMSM) underscores the need for more focused, gender sensitive, and culturally appropriate prevention programs that will build youth's skills, enhance self-esteem, and promote positive behavior change.
HIV/AIDS among Youth Ages 13 to 24 in the United States
Because many sexually experienced teens have not been tested for HIV, the actual number of teens living with HIV infection is estimated to be much higher than the reported number (6,587).3,4
Among youth age 13 to 19, 57 percent of reported HIV infections occurred among young women and 43 percent among young men; 66 percent among non-Hispanic, black youth; 24 percent among non-Hispanic white teens; and eight percent among Latino teens. Asian and native American teens together accounted for less than .009 percent of reported cases in this age group.3
Among youth ages 20 to 24, 64 percent of reported HIV infections occurred among young men and 36 percent among young women; 53 percent among non-Hispanic black youth; 35 percent among non-Hispanic whites; and 10 percent among Latino young adults. Asian and native American youth together accounted for just over one percent of reported HIV infections in this age group.3
Of HIV infection cases reported in 2001 among men ages 13 to 19, 46 percent occurred in YMSM. Five percent of infected young men acquired HIV through heterosexual contact. Of HIV infection cases reported among women ages 13 to 19, 37 percent were acquired heterosexually. Risk factors were not identified for 44 percent of infected male teens and 57 percent of infected female teens.3
Of HIV infection cases reported in 2001 among men ages 20 to 24, 49 percent occurred in YMSM. Six percent of infected young men acquired HIV through heterosexual contract. Among young women the same age, 32 percent acquired HIV infection through heterosexual contact. Risk factors were not identified for 38 percent of cases among males and 62 percent among females this age.3
Through 2001, African Americans and Latinas accounted for 84 percent of cumulative AIDS cases among women ages 13 to 19 and 78 percent of cases among women ages 20 to 24.3
Through 2001, African Americans and Latinos accounted for 62 percent of cumulative AIDS cases among men ages 13 to 19 and 60 percent of cases among men ages 20 to 24.3
These children are taking their lives in their hands and just don't understand the risks.
Reply:I see it like this, if I cant get my teenage daughter to understand how she is so not ready for sex, then I would rather have her on birth control. My mom was like this and what do you know, I had a kid at sixteen. My husband and me are open with our children about this. Good parenting will let your daughter make the right decisions.
Reply:People say no because they think if they give the kids protection it will ensure that they will have sex, where as if they dont have the protection maybe they will be too scared and not go through with it. I know my cousins guardian wont let her get it so im going to take her.. maybe thats wrong but the last thing this world needs are more teen moms who cant take care of themselves or their babies and get stuck with some loser guy. Anyway... thats my rant.
Reply:teens need to have access to birth control
Parents saying don't do it isn't going to stop them, and restricting access to birth control is the cause of teen pregnancy/STD's
Reply:oparents think if shes asking then she is having sex shes a whore blah blah instead of in case something happens shes prepared
Reply:because thats giving the child permission to have sex if u give them the tools
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