Teen question for teens?

I have a 14 year old son, and he's very talented and smart. And I'm not only say that cause he's my son. He's in honors classes in school, and also plays the guitar and drums. My question to any teen that answers this is... what can my husband and I do to help guide our son into life and do the right thing when it comes to school, a job, his music career cause he says that's what he wants to do with his life. I need some advice from a teens point of view about what goes through teens minds at this age, and what I can do to help guide him? Any advice?

Teen question for teens?
Encouragement to continue the things he is good at and enjoys.





Be open to talking without judgement. Let him know he can talk to you about anything and you will help him without judgement.





Be sure to give him some freedom, but also let him know that freedom can be taken away if he makes the wrong choices.





In my opinion, communication and encouragement and two of the most important factors in parent/ children relationships.
Reply:i would say dont force him to do anything he's 'iffy' about cause when my parents do that i only want to go the other way and rebel. im 14 but im not a bad kid or anything either i know other kids who yell at their parents and do bad stuff- thats just not me.. ive never been grounded or anything but it depends how he acts.. if you sign him up for lessons without all his enthusiasm he wont enjoy it as much, let him come to you practically begging to do lessons or something cause then he'll appriciate them and really want them


%26lt;3 good luck
Reply:you cant really do much. you just kinda have to sit back and hope that everything you taught him when he was little paid off. he's becoming more independent now, and doesnt need your guidance every step of the way. if he comes to you for advice, give the best help that you can, and let him handle the situation with that advice.
Reply:Don't worry, like all young teens he wants a music career. Understand that music is a passion for many but the world is full of many other also interesting things. Introduce him discretly to friends with interesting careers that might inspire him to do more. I myself am going for a double major in medicine and music so its not that bad.
Reply:well i hate to tell you but i would back off, let him do what he wants to do dont push him one way cuz its pratically gareent ed that he'll go the other. if he wants to go for a music career then let him, he's still a kid, we dont like to be forced to be grown up, give him space if you trust him but dont lay off all rules, my advice just let him flow, if he goes in the wrong direction then let him you cant stop him from making his own mistakes just because you already made them.
Reply:Wow. I really like this question! Your son seems like an awesome kid. It is great that he is into music and even better about those grades!





What i think about guiding him in the right direction is to support him in anything that he wants to do. Do not get too into his life and trust him as much as you can. Let him experiance to many things while you are here to still support him and help him if he fall.





I tell my parents everyday that i want to be a famous singer. We can dream, can't we? Support him because his dreams are very important and make sure you tell him that he can do anything that he wants him to do.





I really like this question :] i would want my parents thinking the same thing! Your son sounds like a geat kid and good luck
Reply:dont push him into anything, if he wants to do music go with the flow just ensure the importance of a backup to him


there is nothing more annoying than constant arguments, ro lectures about the future and they just pretty much turn you off after hearing them in honesty! they do the opposite of what hey intend to!


Just ask him real isticaly what his back up plan would be, and follow through with steps to ensure that as well as a music career, that way he is making the best of two talents with very little compromise. =]


hope it helps!





xxx
Reply:The best thing that you can do for your son is just be there for him because you don't want to live his life for him just let him discover his future and be himself that's what every teen wants to happen!
Reply:You should let him make his own decision. He might change that sooner or later, or not.I know I changed my mind about what am I going to do after high school too many times and I still don't have a clue. I'm very good at several things so I can't decide. If you're worried because of his music career choice, don't be, I'm sure he loves playing a lot, so you should support him. I'm sure you were a teen too and you had your dreams. If you completely disagree with his choice, don't show that! Don't ruin his dreams!


Rather try to talk about great advantages of stuff he's also good at. In every day conversation mention examples of successful people in areas that you would accept as his career choice, but don't let him notice that you're trying to make him think about that. You need to interest him more in area you want. You can also enroll him in some summer programs:) Don't push him too hard, he knows what he wants, and if you tell him that you don't like what he wants to do, he'll want to do it even more and will even start separating from you!
Reply:if hes smart, it will come to him, just be there to support him in whatever he wants to do in life. Honors classes will get him far. But if music is something he wants to do. Be there for him, Cheer him on, Show him you approve. Stand buy him. Make sure he keeps up in school as well as in his music. Don't take things away from him like that. Teens are under alot of stress, being one myself. Not all of us like when parents are always bugging us. Its better to know they support us and there going to be by our side. hope that helped, ;/
Reply:Use some encouraging tactics. Tell him some of the benefits of doing a sport or something. Have the sex talk with him and make sure he feels VERY comfortable talking with you about anything he does with friends/girlfriends. Just keep communication open. If he isn't willing to do that, then start finding ways to MAKE him.
Reply:Just support him through everything, and encourage him to follow his dream, but don't be shocked if he changes his dream or goals, because teenagers often do that. As long as he does his school work and continues his school work and maintains average/good grades, everything should be fine, just be supporting, loving but firm and discinplinary parents.
Reply:Definatly give him space. Dont be on his back about the future all the time and gettin him all tense. My advise is to let him do his own thing and lean about life as it comes.
Reply:im 14 and an inportant thing someone told me was to think about the future dont do anything that will ruin it because it is easy to mess up know and you might think it is fun and everyone else is doing it but you will be out of that stage and you will be an adult a lot longer than you were a teen and the choices you make then will afect how your life will be for all that time About the music career he might change his mind i have like 10 times about what i want to be. Also he might want to think about a fall back plan. If he is smart he should DEFFINTALY go to college even if he thinks he will make it in music. College is always a great option he can go and be a music teacher if he REALLY wants to work with music or he could do something totally different and have music as a hobby maybe career. Hope I helped !!!!!=)
Reply:Push him to his highest acheivments. He seems like a great kid, have your husband and yourself be very open and instill in your son that he can come to both of you for anything, no matter what. Keep on doing what you are doing.
Reply:Let him decide for himself what he wants to do with his life. Dont push him to do something just because u want him too. Be there and support him in whatever he does!





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Randi
Reply:In my opinion he seems like a very good person and if he already accomplish this much in a early stage of life, then I am sure that he will even set aside even greater accomplishments as he gets older. However, during this time period for me its just taking it easy. For me i also take all honors classes but i also like hanging out with my friends, shopping, cheer leading, boys lol. As long you know you taught him wrong from right and tell him to follow all his positive dreams and goals, I am sure you have nothing to worry about.





Good Luck and All The Best=)
Reply:Don't act like a dumbas$ to your son and he'll do fine.
Reply:Find ways for him to show his talent now. Look for auditions and stuff he could try for, if there's some typr of talent show or something bring it to his attention. Show a lot of intrest in what he wants to do with his life maybe by getting him a music magazine or a new CD randomly.
Reply:firstly, you'll have to recognize (i know it's hard) that your son is a separate person whose dreams may not reflect yours. it doesn't make him any less of a person, it doesn't mean he's going to be an unsuccessful bum who's throwing his life away if he doesn't go by the goals you imagined for him.


if he wants to have a career in music, the only thing you can do is to support him. telling him percentages of people who make it in the music industry is only going to make him rebel; it will push him away. he still is young and is growing and making decisions, so don't push him into a corner where he'll be so stuck on proving you wrong that he may not see another career opportunity he likes better. a lot of the great music artists got there by having supportive parents, even though it was hard.


it is important he knows you accept him for who he is and what he wants to do. he already knows the benefits of going to college and doing well in school. allow him to make his life-changing decisions, and be his rock he can depend on.


good luck.








four years ago i was fourteen, and i wanted to be an actress. now i am starting college classes to become a teacher. the teen years are all about transition, so he might change his mind. but no matter what he wants to do, no matter how often he changes his mind, give him space and free will.
Reply:We dont like to be pushed into something, but its good to push. My parents push me but they only push me FORWARD. They never told me I had to do any one thing. My father never said "your going to be a doctor" or "your going to be a lawyer" he said "be whaever you want to be when your older, just make sure that you bust your *** and be the best you can be at it and ill be proud whatever it is" Just support him all you can =]





Hope this helps.
Reply:Well, I'm 13 years old and I think that you should help him when he asks and have an understanding that he needs room to spread his wings and grow without living up to his parents dreams. Trust me, he will pick the right path and I bet if he studies hard, he'll get into a great college. Chill, he will come out to be successful in life.


:)
Reply:Keep encouriging him, and keep up his confidence
Reply:well i am a fourteen year old girl and i know at this age i have no clue what is going through a guys mind but this is me..





i basically have the rest of my life planned out and i don't want anyone to come in the way of that.





he may be one of those kids who is dedicated to whatever he is doing. keep supporting him in his music and school. get pamphlets for different music places around and he can go to get some help. try to get him to sign up for different things at school. just keep him motivated.
Reply:Be there for him, encourage him to always do his best and not to listen to s*** that might be spread around school (whether or not it is about him).
Reply:dude like dont push it go subtle


but definitly not ovious like dont go up to him he'll just resent u like let him catch u watching a show on famous singers


or stuff like that make it seem like he found it out for himself
Reply:erm, carry on pushing. He might get a bit distracted by things like sex, friends, fun etc but I don't think he should be deprived of these things
Reply:i don't think you should be asking teens this. you should see a family counselor.
Reply:You should not ask teens ask a counselor or something